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The Rules For Being Human
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YOU WILL RECEIVE A BODY.
Pretty basic, and you may or may not like the one you’ve got, but it’s worth acknowledging that this is the one that will be yours for your entire life. Notice how much negative thinking and physical disregard has been put into a body that has done a pretty good job of keeping things going despite the negative mental and physical input. It’s not a coincidence that it’s been referred to as a temple.
YOU WILL LEARN LIFE’S LESSONS.
You are enrolled in a full-time informal school called life. Each day in this school you will have the opportunity to learn life’s lessons. You may like the lessons or think them irrelevant and stupid; it doesn’t matter.
THERE ARE NO MISTAKES, ONLY LESSONS.
Growth is a process of trial and error: experimentation. The failed experiments are as much a part of the process as the experiment that ultimately works. Others have reported, and I concur from my own life experience, that the most difficult experiences were the ones that ultimately gave the most learning and insight.
A LESSON IS REPEATED UNTIL IT IS LEARNED.
A lesson will be presented to you in various forms until you have learned it. Unfortunately, a lesson that is avoided will too often be presented in a more difficult set of circumstance in the future. The kicker about a ‘lesson’ is that when you have learned or mastered it, you get to go on to the next lesson, because…
LEARNING LESSONS DOES NOT END.
There is no part of life that does not contain its lessons. If you are alive, there is still something to learn. Here’s a simple test to see if you still have life’s lessons to learn: check your pulse. Still there?
I’ll include the last five ‘rules’ for being human in my next post.
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Dan Dorr
Personal Mastery Facilitator
The Ugly Side of Dreams
Isn’t that a great title! This is my first blog. I am new to Facebook as of 9 months ago. Twitter and linked in a month ago. Now I am blogging. It’s another great adventure of possibilities.
The ugly side of dreams is an article I am in the process of writing that refers to the unknown prices we will have to pay to make dreams happen. I recently made some of the toughest decisions I have ever made involving friendships and the business of Klemmer & Associates Leadership Seminars Inc. I had no idea I would have to make those kinds of decisions when I started Klemmer & Associates.
It has caused me to reflect on other prices I have had to pay for any dream I have had. My wife and I just celebrated our 25th anniversary. To make an exciting intimate relationship last that long I have been challenged and stretched and paid prices that never crossed my mind when I proposed.
Overcoming resistance
When I surrendered my life to Jesus Christ as both my Lord and Savior I never suspected that my biggest critics would be Christians not non-believers. When I enrolled at the United States Military Academy in 1968 to serve my country I knew I would have physical challenges but I had no idea of dealing with drug addicts returning from Vietnam who were good people or having a gun held to my head by someone in our army.
Maybe it’s good that we don’t know all the prices up front or we probably would not start or follow very many dreams. At the same time there seems to be a need to prepare people that nothing in life comes free. When we start a dream we are infatuated with possibilities which are good. I think we also need to have someone as a mentor who toughens us up for the onslaught of resistance we will meet.
I have often said that “nothing great becomes great without overcoming great resistance”. So share your thoughts with me on a dream you have and prices you paid to get there that you had no idea you would encounter when you signed up for the dream. Click here to leave your story.
Brian Klemmer
Founder, Klemmer & Associates Inc.
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Fifty-One Percent
Other than Brian Klemmer, I am the only other colleague at Klemmer & Associates that had the privilege (although at the time I didn’t always see it that way) of working and spending time with Tom, Brian’s oft-mentioned mentor. Once I recall him mentioning the 51% principle.
If you take the complete totality of our commitment to be 100%, then we could assign to that total various percentages of sub-commitments and intentions. There is no doubt that there are various things we want in life and ways we want to be. There are certain impulses that pull us forward and impulses that too often pull in competing directions.
When we are motivated or inspired, that pull gives us meaning and a reason to get up in the morning. The question remains, what is the commitment level needed to accomplish what we say we want? The greater the degree or percentage of commitment that a person aligns or identifies with his or her goal, the more powerfully and quickly that goal is attained.
And ultimately, to fully achieve something we need to be 100% committed. But in the beginning, is 100% commitment an absolute requisite?
Tom used to say that in the beginning, you didn’t need 100% commitment to something. Initially, that may seem like too gigantic a leap. But for momentum to be in your favor, simply move past the 50% level of commitment. When that line is crossed, he stated that consistent, measurable results would begin to accrue.
Once you achieved 51% and more, a wave of momentum would begin to swell in your favor and you draw toward you a synergy of forces. So the interim goal, Tom suggested, was to build and align one’s commitment to break through the 50% level. Then, get ready!
Dan Dorr
Personal Mastery Facilitator
Children Learn What They Live
It is well known that the environment we grow up in has a significant impact in shaping who we become as adults. As a matter of fact, the concept of program/belief systems (the notion that our subconscious makes the majority of our decisions) or ‘sunglasses’ about life is a fundamental premise upon which we build in the K&A series of seminars.
Research has shown that up to 99% of all decisions we make, are actually made by our belief systems. And, these are influenced by two key factors, repetition and emotional involvement. So when we think about how many times we have heard specific messages growing up and the number of different ways it was communicated it is no wonder that we think and behave in certain ways.
Belief Systems
Whether it was something that caused us to believe in our self or not, these messages began to form the programs that would shape our thinking. Now couple that with hearing these messages from people who we were emotionally connected with – such as our parents, grandparents, teachers, pastor etc. and gradually the thoughts that would carry through our life became fully shaped and formed.
Because I have a deep understanding and awareness of this you would think that I would not be surprised by people’s behavior. And yet every day seems to bring a new lesson. Of late I have been reminded again of how what we believe to be the ‘smallest’ of gestures become programmed into those we have the greatest affect on – specifically our children.
Recently my husband went to visit one of our daughters, who is a student at Dalhousie University in Halifax, Nova Scotia. On his way home from the airport, I received quite an emotional call from him. He said to me “you will never question again the influence you’ve had on her life after you see what I’m bringing home”.
Apparently when he said goodbye, our daughter gave him a bag with fruit to take on the plane in case he got hungry (sound familiar parents?). When he opened the bag he found a note inside with a message of love just like the ones we used to put in her lunch all those years through elementary and secondary school.
That note now has a place of honor on our fridge as the first note from “the next generation”.
So just a thought, that even when you don’t think people, especially our children, notice the extras you do – remember it’s often the little things we do over and over from a place of love that will count the most.
Sona van Der Hoop
K&A Personal Mastery Facilitator
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Parkinson’s Law
In 1955 Cyril Northcote Parkinson, a British naval historian, pinned the adage, “Work expands so as to fill the time available for its completion” as the first line in what was a humorous essay. I first heard of Parkinson’s Law when I was building and managing manufacturing plants in the Pacific Northwest of the United States.
Parkinson’s statement, over time, has also been known as, “The scope of the job will always expand to fill the time allotted.” And indeed I, as many others, have experienced this to be completely true. If you have ever hired someone to do a job for you likely you experienced this law as well.
A plan is developed for the scope of the job and low and behold the full amount of time set aside is consumed completing the job. Although Parkinson’s Law was based on his study of the British Civil Service bureaucracies it seems to cross into every aspect of human life.
The Secret To Reaching Your Goals
For instance, have you ever had a dream that you thought could take an extended period of time to accomplish? Say, 1, 5, 10, 15 or more years? And it did! It’s a phenomenon for sure. As humans, we have an insatiable need to “Be Right” and will go to extremes to validate our rightness. And at times, at the expense of our deepest desires our dreams and goals.
As a personal development and leadership facilitator I work with people every month that allow Parkinson’s Law to run in their lives. I hear people say they want to grow their network marketing businesses by $10,000 to $50,000 or more per month and they are willing to take five or more years to accomplish this.
But, what if by becoming crystal clear on the dream and getting fully committed one could accomplish this same goal in one year or less? Isn’t it just as easy to get committed to a short period of time as it is a long period of time? If you truly have a burning desire to accomplish a goal then crossing the finish line sooner rather than later can be a huge win for you and your loved ones.
What does it take, one might ask? Emotion. Emotion is a fuel that will drive one to create. We’ve all read of Albert Einstein and how he worked day and night inventing all kinds of modern conveniences. He ate infrequently, slept little and became an inventing machine turning out one invention after another. He was completely emotionally involved and got his energy from that emotion.
One’s passion for service to mankind will become the fuel needed to make this a lifetime experience. Emotional involvement is what drove Mother Teresa. And there are literally thousands of examples throughout history. If you aren’t emotionally connected to what it is that you say you want, consider getting a new dream. Because without the emotion to drive you to create your odds of success drop dramatically.
At Klemmer & Associates our clients gain clarity on their dreams and goals while reigniting their passion through our experiential leadership seminars. If your energy for your dream has flattened out or left you completely enroll into our Personal Mastery seminar at www.klemmer.com. You’ll be thrilled you did.
John Edwards
Advanced Leadership Facilitator
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