My husband is what I like to call a “Man’s Man”, working in construction for 30 years, building homes, fireplaces and walls, he likes to spend time outside. He loves motorcycles, and fast cars. He has two garages full of tools, saws, and collectables he purchased throughout the years.

Every day after work he would spend hours out in the garage. In the early years I resented that. I felt like he was avoiding me. As the years went by I decided that that’s what he needed to do for himself and that was fine, for him.

I had no intention of going out to the garage, after all, I’m not a garage type gal. It was dirty out in the garage and there was nothing there for me. That’s how it was for the first 20 years.

Then I went to Personal Mastery and it was, without a doubt one of the best things I ever did for my marriage. The very first night was all about communication. I connected with people in ways I had never connected before.

Personal Mastery & Diamonds

At one point, the facilitator told a story about a farmer who left his farm searching for diamonds. He searched for diamonds but never found any. Years later diamonds were discovered on the very farm he had deserted. More than that it was said to be the largest diamond mine ever to be discovered up until that time in history.

The framer never knew his farmland was full of diamonds. Why didn’t he know? Because he never looked for diamonds there. He never took stock in the wealth he already had. At the end of the story the facilitator suggested that we could be overlooking some diamonds in our own lives.

Upon returning home from Personal Mastery, I began to think about my life and specifically what I wanted more of in my marriage. I wanted a closer relationship with my husband. It was a good relationship but I wanted more. I wanted to understand him more, laugh with him more, and have more common interests.

That’s when I had the revelation. I had a revelation, that perhaps what I wanted was something I already had. What if everything I wanted more of in my marriage was sitting out in the garage? What if there was an entire diamond mine out there I knew nothing about?

Well I decided to find out. So I took a little walk… out to the garage. I went to the garage for the first time without an agenda. No honey do list. Nothing I needed my husband to provide. I just went out there to be with him for a while.

And the most amazing thing happened. He began to talk to me about what was important to him. He began to show me things and tell me why each item was so valuable.

Before I knew it we were laughing and connecting at a much deeper level. I had found my diamond mine. And it is a mine so big, so full of gems, that I can spend the rest of my life enjoying them. Since that time, my husband and I have grown closer than ever.

He still goes to the garage and when I am at home, I join him there for at least a few minutes a week… because that’s where we have our best conversations, that’s where we come up with solutions together, and that’s where we laugh the most. In June we will be celebrating 33 years of marriage.

What diamonds are you looking for? Perhaps what you need most is something you already have.

Dianne Beinschroth

Personal Mastery and Quickening Facilitator