It is well known that the environment we grow up in has a significant impact in shaping who we become as adults. As a matter of fact, the concept of program/belief systems (the notion that our subconscious makes the majority of our decisions) or ‘sunglasses’ about life is a fundamental premise upon which we build in the K&A series of seminars.

Research has shown that up to 99% of all decisions we make, are actually made by our belief systems. And, these are influenced by two key factors, repetition and emotional involvement. So when we think about how many times we have heard specific messages growing up and the number of different ways it was communicated it is no wonder that we think and behave in certain ways.

Belief Systems

Whether it was something that caused us to believe in our self or not, these messages began to form the programs that would shape our thinking. Now couple that with hearing these messages from people who we were emotionally connected with – such as our parents, grandparents, teachers, pastor etc. and gradually the thoughts that would carry through our life became fully shaped and formed.

Because I have a deep understanding and awareness of this you would think that I would not be surprised by people’s behavior. And yet every day seems to bring a new lesson. Of late I have been reminded again of how what we believe to be the ‘smallest’ of gestures become programmed into those we have the greatest affect on – specifically our children.

Recently my husband went to visit one of our daughters, who is a student at Dalhousie University in Halifax, Nova Scotia. On his way home from the airport, I received quite an emotional call from him. He said to me “you will never question again the influence you’ve had on her life after you see what I’m bringing home”.

Apparently when he said goodbye, our daughter gave him a bag with fruit to take on the plane in case he got hungry (sound familiar parents?). When he opened the bag he found a note inside with a message of love just like the ones we used to put in her lunch all those years through elementary and secondary school.

That note now has a place of honor on our fridge as the first note from “the next generation”.

So just a thought, that even when you don’t think people, especially our children, notice the extras you do – remember it’s often the little things we do over and over from a place of love that will count the most.

Sona van Der Hoop

K&A Personal Mastery Facilitator

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